Relationships are the way we connect with other people. We can have romantic, friendship, familial, coworker, acquaintance, stranger, and even pet relationships.
Relationships change, shift, and end for various reasons.
As humans, we are constantly evolving and changing. Relationships are an extension of ourselves so it makes sense that they will change as we do. Or don’t. A lot of times relationships shift because one person is growing and changing, and one person is not.
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Two years after moving to Belize from Seattle (I’ve been in Belize 4 years now), I noticed where I once had a lot of interaction with various people back home, the “out of sight, out of mind” phenomenon had definitely become a reality.
I recognized that a lot of people I knew didn’t understand why I made a move South of the Border. I had changed. I was on a different path and the relatability factor decreased.
While some Relationships fizzle on their own without much hoopla, others end with a bang. If there was an emotional ending to Relationship, it’s a good idea to do a Relationship Purge.
Most of us want relief from pain, and the ability to move on freely when relationships end. A Relationship Purge consists of Mental, Emotional and Energetic components. What do those look like?
RELATIONSHIP REVIEW
This is the MENTAL part. Take out a pen and paper (or keyboard if you must!) and write down everything about this Relationship – the good, the bad, what worked, what didn’t work, what your part was, what their part was, and anything else that you need to purge.
This could include writing a letter to the person — and NOT sending it (key point!! Don’t send it – this is for YOU and your healing).
FEEL IT
This is the EMOTIONAL part. Feeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeel those feelings. Feeeeeeeeeeeeel the upset. Feeeeeeeeeeeel the sadness, pain, maybe even happiness or relief. Feeeeeeeeeeeeeeel how you feel. Acknowledging our feelings is one of the quickest ways to heal.
The trick is to not put yourself in a bad place with the feelings, where you are beating yourself up or reliving it over and over again. The purpose is to allow yourself to feel it. By acknowledging your feelings, you allow them to MOVE THROUGH YOU in RELEASE.
ENERGETICALLY RELEASE
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Energetic Release is the Biggie and, in my opinion, it’s where the true shifts really happen and STICK long-term.
All of our experiences are stored in our Nervous System, at the Cellular level. All the talking and feeling in the world won’t do diddly if it is not followed up with an Energetic Release. [TIP: If you’ve been in therapy for years with no changes, start looking into Energy Healing Modalities! PS I am a fan of Therapy — it just needs to include Energy Work.]
All you need to do an Energetic Release is a strong intention, trust, and to be open.
STEP ONE: CORD CUTTING
This is fun! Visualize the energetic cords between you and the other person. Whatever it looks like is how it looks. Next, visualize humongous scissors. Hold those scissors and see them cutting the cord between the two of you. See the cords fall to the floor. You’re Free!!!
STEP TWO: CHAIR VISUALIZATION
See yourself sitting in a chair. See the other person sitting in a chair in front of you. Say out loud, “I hereby request all of my pieces be returned to me and all of your pieces be returned to you, for the Best and Highest Good.” You may feel or see things leaving your body. You may feel or see things leaving the other person’s body and coming back to you. Whatever shows up for you is correct and perfect, go with it. Visualize until you feel the process is complete.
STEP THREE: BODY VISUALIZATION
Feel into your body, physically and also the space around it (etheric field and auric field). Ask the energetic remnants of that person and relationship to remove itself. You may actually feel or see things leaving your body. Whatever shows up for you is correct and perfect, go with it. Visualize until you feel the process is complete.
Note: If you need some more specific or to go deeper, feel free to book a session with me so I can help facilitate and we can tackle it together!
Each person views Relationship and processes differently.
Allow yourself to take the time you need to talk/write it out, FEEL and Energetically Release your Relationships.
You CAN also do this purge for Relationships that you want to continue. Just know that doing these exercises will likely shift the Relationship in some way – how you relate to each other, dynamics, and the energy.
RELATIONSHIP RELEASE and ROAR!!!
I think I really need to do this. These are some great tips to get rid of unwanted feelings, conditions, memories and relationships.
These are simple yet pack a punch! Let me know how it goes Shubhra!
Great breakdown of how to process a relationship purge. We tend to hold onto them for a far too long and in the process, we destroy parts of ourselves. I believe this is absolutely necessary for our health!
I agree Shelly! We (I) spend waaaaaaaay to long processing instead of Releasing. It’s powerful stuff and can save us so much mental anguish!
I imagine this would feel both painful and good at the same time… And you’re so correct that relationships change as time passes – the “relatability factor” does decrease!
Therein lies the kicker huh Lori – it feels painful and good! Each layer of release leads to increasing good feelings though, so it’s worth it!
Visualization is a wonderful tool for releasing emotions. Thank you for sharing and providing us how-to tips.
Indeed! And visualization is great for creating things too!!!
YES! I love this!! I used to be a therapist and am now a healer, so I completely agree about needing to heal the cellular memories. But I have friendships I haven’t completely let go of, and have been reluctant to give up on, even though they have certainly given up, themselves. I just take longer, I guess, to let go. So I will try those exercises. I love to do cord-cutting, and just did that with the friendships I was hanging on to & tried adding the chair work, too. I definitely do feel free. Thx!
I have some work to do on similar friendships Jeanine – I’ve been avoiding and ignoring them because we’ve been friends for many years. Letting Go is a tough one for a lot of people. I’m glad the cord cutting and chair visualization helped you feel free!!
Wow! This is great… can’t wait to try
Well you did inspire the post! 🙂 I can’t wait to hear how it goes for you!
I feel honor! See my latest post if it went through.
It went through (I have to approve comments).
It’s interesting how this past weekend I have been trying to purge my past marriage n how distracted I have become. Every time I start the process, I can’t do it! It has been 11 years of my divorce n I still feel the pain even though I have been working on Myself all of this year. I find he still hanging on to me n I can’t get rid of him. To the point that I started this purging process Saturday n my son told me he got into a discussion with his dad bc he wants to talk to me n I refused to deal with this person. When he is around I feel his negativity. Am I ever going to detached from him?
Carmen, a cord cutting and energetic release would work really well for you – cut those ties to your ex and get rid of all his energy. Let me know if you want a session. Once you do the energetic piece, the rest will flow easier. You’ve done a lot of the mental work, for sure – so don’t think the 11 years working on yourself has been for naught! Try the writing piece first to purge him and the experience.
Good to know. I’m planning to do tonight the writing. I will let you know. Thank you