Triggers. You’ve had them, but maybe you haven’t recognized them.
I was going to write about something else today but I have been affected by a Trigger and thought I’d use it to show how we can Tackle them.
Triggers are things in life that come up and cause us to have an emotional charge. Most likely this charge is Negative and we get F I R E D U P !!!!
When we are Triggered it is an indicator that something isn’t resolved or healed.
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Here is the (hopefully) short story about my current Trigger:
The backstory: When I was 5 years old my parents saw that I had musical talent so they bought a piano. I had lessons until I was a teenager and thought I didn’t want or need them anymore.
At 18, I left Seattle and attended college in Utah. A few years later, my parents decided to sell our house and build their dream house. I went home for a surprise visit at my Birthday and told them both, “I want the piano. Whatever you do, don’t get rid of it.” I was 22.
A few months later they called me all excited because they had had a garage sale and Dad exclaims, “We sold the piano to a really nice lady!”
My reaction? I L O S T I T !!!!!!! I don’t remember what all was said but I was so angry and eventually hung up on them. Mom sent me a letter apologizing. This isn’t about my parent’s decision, it is about my reaction and what it stirred up.
Under the anger was a deep hurt. Hurt that they didn’t listen to me, that they didn’t know me and how important the piano was.
**Note — my Life Lessons are around rejection/abandonment, undeserving/ unworthy, and feeling invisible. All of which I have done a ton of work on in both Counseling and Energy Healing.
In 2010, I splurged big money ($8000 smackeroos – gulp!) and bought a brand new digital Yamaha piano/keyboard. I was actually scared of the thing it could do so much!
When I left for Belize the agreement was that the piano would stay in the condo and my Stuff would stay in the on-site storage unit.
Since I’ve been in Belize (4 years now), I have gotten about at least a dozen emails from Mom that my nephew needs space (my parents bought the condo and he lives in it) and telling me I need to get rid of the piano.
HUGE T R I G G E R ! ! ! ! !
Talking about the piano takes me back to my early twenty’s and losing my first piano. It makes me feel helpless, weak, unheard, unlistened to, like I don’t matter, like I don’t deserve to have the piano.
It mostly gives me a lot of anxiety that they will up and get rid of the piano and there is nothing I can do about it as I am 3,8000 miles away.
Are you feeling me? CRIMES!!!
T R I G G E R ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !
That first piano was an extension of ME. The piano was/is a big part of my identity.
This new piano is MINE, something that I spent hard-earned money on, something I claimed as my own and that NO ONE would ever be able to take away from me.
The Piano Trigger signifies another layer of my Life Lessons is ready to be healed. BRUTAL but what a great way to smack me in the face, draw my attention to it, and encourage me to heal it again on another, maybe deeper, level.
I’m almost 49 and Triggered. I mean crimes, it’s just a piano – I don’t know how I would ship it to Belize or if this would even be a good environment for it. I do want it…but maybe I should find it a home in the meantime – someone who can use it. I’m not using it. My nephew isn’t using it.
It’s “just” a piano.
It’s not about the piano – it’s about the Life Lessons.
Next time you are emotionally charged about something, remember this story (you’re welcome, HA)!
3 Steps to Tackling Triggers
Stop and consciously tune into your emotions – become aware of what they are.
What are they telling you? What do they connect to? Where are they coming from?
Dig a little deeper into what the Trigger/Emotions could really be about.
Hint: It usually isn’t about what triggered you!
Ask yourself if there are recurring emotions or themes in these triggers and what, from childhood, you can connect them to.
I’ve been investigating other triggers while writing this and the common theme all leads back to one or more of those Life Lessons.
Alrighty then! (BREATHE) I’m off to figure out how to Heal this at the energetic level! Wish me luck!
Here’s to noticing, acknowledging, digging deep and then healing your Triggers!! Let me know if I can help – some of these are doozies aren’t they!
nice one. i will dwell deep into my emotional triggers.
Thanks Ginia, good luck!
Oh my you triggered my mind on this one- haha…..Yes I have alot of triggers……I like to take a deep breathe and move about to release or relieve the trigger or I will definitely start to lose it……Sometimes it’s harder as that emotion starts stirring faster than I can take the deep breath or go for the run with my dogs!
That out of control feeling comes over and my head won’t let go! AAGGHHH…….
haha Pamela! A deep breath really helps – maybe even a few breaths! I had to do that too, then I was drawn to write!
They certainly can be a doozy! I have had a lot of passive-aggressive people in my life, beginning with my mother. Your piano story reminded me of that, and of how I have had to learn to speak up for myself, call it as I see it, and identify & express exactly how I’m feeling when something happens. And healing it afterward is so important!
Yes Jeanine – ALL of this, exactly! I am working at speaking up in the moment though sometimes I need process time too.
I loved your post. Last year I had taken up a yell-free challenge. Di=uring the challenge I realized we don’t just get angry and yell … there are certain triggers. Identifying triggers can help greatly. Just in case you want to read my post on the triggers – here is the link:
Thanks for sharing your post Shubhra! I have never heard of a Yell-Free Challenge. I guess that would be really good if one yells a lot.
My triggers set off atomic bombs. Maybe even H-bombs.
And, yes, we have to work on the underlying issues- since the trigger is only what floats on the surface.